How much does this word, "gentlemen" matters to you?

I am one very particular girl who thinks that being a gentlemen and receiving the appropirate treatment from a gentlement is very crucial. Just like the saying "first impression counts", gentlemen-ness is always one of the things that are included in that first impression.

Even though Singapore is strongly influenced by the english media, i think that real gentlemen only exist in a handful. The rest are either just too cant be bothered, dont know how to be one, and dont have the ability to be one.(MOst singaporeans guys fall into this category)

Though i am in no state to force a guy to be a gentleman, i always hope that my date will be someone like that. Since young, i always wanted to be treated like a lady. That's what being a girl is for right? (erm yea besides being the other species to have sex with and the role of motherhood..and shit like that)

Actually, being a gentleman doesnt take much effort or resources. Simple acts like opening the door for the lady is something that will brighten up a girl's day. I dont know, but recently i had been more particular abt it. Had a very bad date experience. I know that most of my readers wouldnt think that its a BIG deal coz its to the personal preference. But for me, i just think that if you dont set your standards high, you will forever get to know shit people who pocesses the qualities of stinginess, ungentlemen-ness etc.

This guy, let's name him Mango. He asked me out for a movie date(take note, its HIM asking ME out.) It's our first date and i was excited about it, wondered what kind of person he really is. I can remember that it was on a weekend. You know how crowded cinemas can be a on weekend right? So being the more thoughful one, i reminded him to get the tickets in advance. But he kept on insisting that we can get it. Perhaps i am too used to dating guys who are more thoughtful in this sense. I am sure you wouldnt want to disappoint your date if you cant get the tickets right? Its all abt planning, having a backup plans etc. But he didnt even think of that! if he's just a young 16 year old boy, i wouldnt blame him. But he's already 26. OMG!

And so i finally managed to persuade him to get the tickets through VISA. You guess what? He actually complained about the prices and the additonal booking fees. OMG! He's so stingY!! I understand that some people maybe more particular about their money but he doesnt have to complain right infront of me right?
Next was food. We went to a crowded food court to have dinner. When i found a seat, i asked him to get his food first. And he went ahead. it was my turn when he came back. When i was back with my food, he had already started eating and was almost done. Shit him. I was almost lost for words. Cant believe that will happen!

Yea i know its just a date but you never know where a date will lead you to right? But being a gentlemen is just not him! Why must he put up a front right? But look, sometimes this kinda things can be changed. You can be a very untidy and dirty person. Why arent u behaving like yourself when you are outside? Its because that's not an acceptable behaviour! Duh.

Sigh. Am i asking for too much? I dont think i am. The reason being I used to have very ungentlemen ex boyfriends? i dont know. As the saying goes, once bitten twice shy.

You've got the poison, I've got the remedy.
@7/13/2004 04:39:00 pm